Mom’s birthday is tomorrow and she would have been turning 85 years old.  She will be having her party up in heaven with all of her brothers, sisters, mom, dad, aunts, uncles, cousins, and all the others who have gone on before and after her since she has been gone.  I often wonder up there how much time has passed like this birthday marks the 19 birthdays that we have missed with her I wonder if it has been but a blink of an eye for her since she has been there or if it seems like a lifetime.  She will be giving my granny advice on how to beat my Nana on playing rummy cause my Nana always wins it seems no matter who she plays.   It seems like March used to be a busy month for birthdays it really still is but the birthdays are a lot more heavenly now than they use to be.  Moms birthday is tomorrow, my Aunt Betty’s birthday was the 5 of March,  Carl’s birthday is the 11 of March and I have 2 nieces and a nephew who have all passed whose birthdays are also in March and that last but not least the father of my children his birthday is on 24 of March but he is still with us alive and not so well but hanging in there, my grandson Nick birthday is also in March on the 3rd.

My Aunt Betty’s birthday was 3 days ago and I still miss her so much she was closer to my age and we both liked a lot of the same things so it was pretty awesome.  I can’t believe that she has been gone since 1986 she was really only 13 years older she would have been 75 years old she too is up there in heaven playing cards, Yahtzee, Chinese checkers, and any number of other games that we have always played at her house.  She was my Uncle Chuck’s wife.  I used to go on vacation with them all the time and always had the best time.

My grandson, Nick whose birthday is on the 3 of March is a great kid and a real character but that is okay he is a good kid kind of reminds me of his Mom sometimes.  But we will try not to say to that too much.  LOL

Carl’s birthday is coming up on the 11 of March and he will be turning 66 years old and he will be gone for 6 years come May 30 of this year.  It just doesn’t seem like that much time has passed already.  But my heart knows it though.  He is missed just like my Mom, aunt, my nephew and 2 nieces I would give anything to tell them each one more time how much they are loved and missed here on earth but I am sure that already know it and that they hear our prayers when loved ones are coming home to heaven to our heavenly father and all the relatives who have gone before them.

It is a little strange for me this year to be writing this for all my loved ones when I usually write it for just my Mom but this whole year has been a little different and I felt like I needed to pay tribute to all of my loved ones who have been gone and if the ones here who are still with us just that would know that my thoughts are with them as well.  My ex-husband his birthday is coming up also on the 24 he too will be 66 and he is looking forward to that day.  Now that is looking forward to being a year older but hey what can I say another year older is always another year wiser or so they tell me right?

This has been a really unusual couple of months because anything that you can think of happening has probably happened but not always to the good but I am going to chalk it up to the weird weather, Easter falling on April fool’s day and uncommon chain of events beyond any kind of control for mankind.  Wow, what strange thing to say Easter on April Fool’s Day but this has happened before and it will happen again.  Here are the dates that it has and will again:

Just an FYI: Easter and April Fool’s Day have coincided in 1714, 1725, 1736, 1804, 1866, 1877, 1888, 1923, 1934, 1945, 1956, and will coincide again in 2018, 2029, 2040, 2108, 2170, 2181, 2192, 2238, 2249, 2260, 2306, 2317, 2328.

Thank you once again for reading my blog I hope you have enjoyed reading as much as I have enjoyed writing it.  Take care of yourselves and God bless you all be safe.  Mom and Misty when she was 10this is Mom Chris (Fern C. Kelly) and Misty when she was 10 years old



It’s been another year added to all the other years you have been gone already.  I still miss you all the time.  I know I want to pick up the phone at least a hundred times a day to call and tell you something that has happened then I remember that you’re not here to answer anymore.  You left us so long ago of course I know you didn’t want to leave but I know that it was better than watching you in pain every day.  God was done with you here on earth and needed your beautiful shining face where he could see that wonderful smile himself every day.

Yes  Mom we are all doing good and taking care of one another as best as we can.  We all love you and wish we could hug you just one last time but we know that there is no more suffering for you and that you’re in a better place.  So you don’t worry about us and you continue to catch up with all the loves who have gone before you and since you have left us.  Give all my love tell JJ, HP and Uncle Chuck that I love them all so very much and miss them and wish that I could have been there with them at the end but I was somewhere else and didn’t know until it was too late.  Give all the others a shout out too but Mom you remember that here on earth you are missed and loved every day for the rest of my days.

This is a little note to my Mom Fern C. Kelly  March 9,1933-September 5, 2000 that all of her children and all who are still living here on earth still think of her every day and miss her too every day.  Thanks Mom

Love all of us,

Kat, Mark, Chris, Misty, Carolyn, Nick, Wesley, JJ, and all the other cousins who are left that I can’t name them all….

We become our Parents Parents!!!

     Have you ever noticed that when we are born that our parents most of the time take care of us until we move away from home to go to college or join the military or even just get our own space when or even get married.  Then when they get older and have trouble taking care of themselves they move in with us and we take care of them until such time as they no longer need the care or they are no longer here on earth.  I know this because in 2000 I moved in with my Mom because she was having a few issues about taking her medicine and getting on time.  So I keep my full time job and my brother and I took turns when I was at work during the day he took care of her and when I got off I would pick of the slack and watch over Mom.  Do all the cleaning, cooking, laundry and anything else that had to be done.  In July when we were told that her cancer was back she was already have some major problems and then by September she was gone.  But she needed lots of help and I was glad to be available to help her and be with her until she no longer needed me.  

     She is still missed by all of us but we all shared responsibilities for her welfare and tried to keep her on tract the best we could to make her comfortable and keep her happy the way that we could.  I hope you all understand it doesn’t happen in all families but in ours it worked.  You have a good weekend and have an extra nice week to come.  

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