Thanksgiving Revisited

I always loved going to my great-grandparents and grandparents home for the holidays.  We would go the Wednesday before Thanksgiving and change our clothes and get our chores done.  Go into the house to help finish the meal and set the tables so we could all get ready to eat.  After the meal was done we would finish up any last minute cooking such as pies, cookies and sweet potatoes, and all the salads that Grandma would fix for the big thanksgiving meal.  We would hit the bed early cause we still had to get up early the next morning to milk cows, gather the eggs, feed the pigs, and other chores that needed to be done. 


    I remember after all the chores were done and we were sitting around the kitchen listening to stories, and chopping the vegetables and whatever else needed to get done.  With my Grandma in the kitchen there was no telling what she would be yelling for you to be doing at a moments notice.  I loved sitting in the kitchen behind the island that she worked her magic on and listening to a bunch of women in the kitchen talk about nothing really but still learn something.  When it came time to set the big tables she would tap my feet and so okay kiddo go set the table but wash your hands first. 


   After everyone got sat down we would start at the head of the table where my great grandpa sat and we would all say what we were thankful for that year.  My grandpa Raymond every year was thankful for the same thing…it was that his parents were still healthy and his beautiful wife Ruby was still able to cook the wonderful food we were having and he had all of his children, grandchildren and great grandchildren under the same roof.  But best of all he had his healthy and he was a very lucky man indeed. 


    This year I’m adding some reason to be thankful too.  Even though I don’t have Carl this holiday season…he isn’t suffering and he is in a better place so I know that he is happier there then being in pain here with me.  I have my health such as it is, I have my children, grand children and my brothers and most of all I have you my cyberbuddies who have helped me out of a lot of messes and I appreciate it very much but best of all I do have all of you and you have never let me feel alone so thank you so very much from my heart to yours.  I love you all.

Love Kat


2013 Resolutions


    Well hello out there in cyberspace the New Year is almost upon us and I have just started thinking about my resolutions but I wonder why I ever think about them at all because along about March or April everything goes every which way and there goes my resolutions and I was doing so well too.

     One of the things I’m hoping for this New Year is that it would be a better than last year was for me.  In May it will be a whole year that my husband Carl has been gone so I just about got all the first out of the way except for his birthday which falls in March.  My doctor tells me it will take time before I’m really able to talk about him without feeling like my heart is being cut out without any medicine to kill the pain.  But I know the good Lord won’t give me more than I can handle but Lord my arms are a little full here. 

     The one thing that I think I need to do as far as a resolution is to lose a little weight and start getting out of the house besides just to the grocery store or the library every now and then because I’m becoming a hermit and I don’t want to do that because I have been there and done that.  I need to start talking pictures more and doing the things I have enjoyed in the past but have forgotten about.  I need to start meeting friends and going to the movie or out to the mall or even just hang out together and catch up with each other. 

     When the weather gets better up North I need to catch a plane and take Carl to Manchester to his final resting place.  He told me that he lived in some old mill buildings which had been converted into condos right across from the Democratic Hall where they have their Democratic meeting in the city when the President election is going on.  He said his street is packed all the way up to the Holiday Inn and the beyond.  He told me that Marie and him they met on the bridge every morning her coming home from work and Carl going to work and they would stand and talk for about 20 minutes.  Don’t you think that is cute? 

     While I’m up north I would love to go to NYC and check out the sites and just walk around town for a little bit.  It has been a very long time since I was in NYC I think that it would be fun and be a tourist for an afternoon.  I would probably go to Rockefeller Center and look around.  Might even go down and see O’Reilly to see what he is like in person.  I want to read one of his books he has written one about Kennedy and also Lincoln both should be interesting reading.  That is another one of my goals or resolutions is to read a lot more.  Yes Art I can just hear you say sale some more books first.  Yes I will because if I don’t sell my books I won’t have money to buy more.  I love to read and I love to have books all around me.  Maybe in my next life if I come back as a person I should be a librarian that way I can always be surrounded by the smell of books and I can help children and adults both find their love of reading. 

     I also would like to be living by myself at some stage in my life.  I still want to be going to Myrtle Beach with Jen and the girls not this coming summer but the following summer 2014.  I want to be living with Jen and the girls but I want to have my own space with a kitchen, laundry room, bedroom, bathroom and an office.  I know that isn’t too much to ask for but I know that most apartments and houses in South Carolina doesn’t have basements so that is going to be something that will probably have to be reworked a few times until we both are happy. 

     I have always loved to live by the water and now that I’m able to do that I’m ready to start doing that again.  I know that we won’t be able to live right on the water but maybe near the water will be okay.  Did you know that some things are beyond our control?  The one thing I know that I can control is my thoughts, my temper, and then on a occasion my mouth which sometimes when I’m angry it says things that I can’t stop.  But I’m human and even with that knowledge it is fun to get into a little trouble sometimes don’t you think?

     Well I’m having such fun with this paper I believe I will write just a little more.  How was everyone Christmas?  Mine was hard because it was my second major holiday without Carl and it was very harder because I had already bought his present last year two or three days after Christmas so it was wrapped and in with the tree stuff.  I just put it back in my closet and left it wrap as if he will come anytime and pick it up.  I don’t understand why I just didn’t give it to my brother or even Rick they both would have loved it but I would have to watch them when they wear it and I think know I know it would be hard for me cause I bought it specially for Carl and they would know that too.

     Maybe it would be hard on them too.  Plus I think it was the wrong color for both of them.  I’m not even sure if Rick would wear it because I’ve never seen him wear anything like it.  Mark would and he wouldn’t feel uncomfortable because I gave him a brand new pair of shoes that Carl wore once and Mark has gotten a lot of miles out of.  Mark has always gotten Carl’s hand me down shoes because he stands on his feet all night long so he always needs shoes. 

     Now back to resolutions have you ever thought about why you just don’t finish them?  I have been thinking about that and I have come up with several interesting reasons.  The first probably being the most logical one:  it is that we get lazy.  At first it sounds like we need to do this for our health, family, our jobs, our lover, but nowhere in the situation is there us, me, or I.  I wonder if that is why it always fails.  I have decided in order for my resolutions to work it must be for me not for them, family, work, or anything or anyone else just ME!!!!!!!  I think I would have a lot better chance of completing my resolutions instead of thinking as a group but thinking like an individual.  Second: not so ideal as the first but just as meaningful and that is after we make all the resolutions we can think of making we realize that we have make too many and there is no way that we can possible get any of them down.  We are way over the top and there isn’t anyway that we could even do one of them so not anything gets done.  So we don’t even bother. 

     I hope you have enjoyed this has much as I have.  I didn’t think I would enjoy getting into writing again but I am and I do.  Thank you for reading and please leave me a comment good or bad I would love to hear about what you think.  Happy New Year’s 2013 I hope that your resolutions are going to be completely this year I believe my will be. 

     May your New Year’s be good, better than last year if it was a bad year, May your ship come in and not pass you at the docks?  May your dreams for the New Year come true and your cup overflow with goodness and riches beyond your wildest dreams.  Take good care of yourself and you are in my thoughts and prayers. 

Love to all of you across the miles and the little pond,


“Mars” The Cat

“Mars the Cat”



I have a cat named “Mars” He is such a wonderful and curious cat.  I have found him in places that most animals cannot even get to.  For example: he loves to play on the fireplace mantel, on top of the island of the sink, and even on the top of the TV in the living room.  “Mars” is just like a hero who has supernatural powers whom you would want in your in your corner in a very dark alley.  Throughout history cats like my “Mars” have been favorites of the Gods and Goddess to the point of worship.  My “Mars” is quite special he listens to my problems and never tells my secrets.  I’m not so sure but every now and then “Mars” seems to disappear like in a thin air but always seems to return about feeding time. While all of this is happening throughout the house that he “Mars” loves to play in. 

“Mars” is loyal cat and enjoys playing with family and his friends.  His favorite toys are his catnip mouse and playing with a plastic bag.  “Mars” is very sociable cat in as much as cats can be sociable. “Mars” is a tabby whose colors are tan, gray, and white on all feet with white below his chin.  He is very unique he has his own attitude toward all things…for example if he does not like you he will let out a furious growl and if that has not caught your attention he will furiously attack you to get his point across. 

“Mars” if he lived during Egyptian time he would have been loved and cherished by Baset the Goddess of moon and also the Goddess of cats.  (Encyclopedic of Mythica and Egyptian mythology) In Egypt time cats they were such big deals that if one died their bodies were separated and buried apart to keep from returning and haunting their masters. So even though he would be cherished and loved it might not be a such a great ideal for “Mars” to live in that time period because of how the Egyptian do away with the body of the cats. 

I beat you might wonder about his supernatural powers: he has a wonderful power that I wished I had it is the ability to read one’s mind also he has the ability to leap tall objects with little to no effort.  Sometimes having super powers gets you in lots of trouble.  Having powers all the time you sometimes take them for grant.  For example: you forget and you upset the God and Goddess with little effort.  While talking about the moon one day “Mars” was telling his friends that the moon had nothing on the sun.  The sun’s powers were brighter by far then moon and always would be.  The Goddess of moon heard the conservation and called him before the council of the Gods. “Mars” had never been in trouble before so he was not sure what to do but he knew that if he lost he would die.

“Mars” had to think about what he was going to say to the Gods and Goddess because he knew beyond anything else it would set procedure for the next generation to come.  It would also set the precedent for what was brighter the sun or moon among his cat friends and the rest of Egypt.

The God and Goddess who made up this council was Re (the god of sun), Ash (god of the desert), Horus (catchall god, son of Iris), Bastet (goddess of moon and cats), Iris (knowledge), Hathor (destruction of mankind) and last in case of tie break Meretseger (silence). “Mars” knew he was in trouble with all of these gods and goddess on the council.

“Ladies and gentlemen, Gods and Goddesses I stand before you not just a mere cat but one whose live is in jeopardy.  I want to first tell Goddess Bastet I meant no disrespect about what I said about the moon only that the sun rays were brighter in my opinion than the light of the moon at night. The moon is no less beautiful than the sun is hot or that one is more or less brighter or anything else for that matter.  I never wanted to offend the very people who can determine what will happen to me.  My fate is not only in your hands but you will be setting a new precedent for centuries to come.  If Bastet thought that I had offend her then now please God of Sun Re please don’t think I’m doing the same to you now because I’m not.  When a person and/or cat makes observations we make a point to compare one thing to another it is how we learn comparisons. If I must die I will die with honor, dignity, and most of all I hope to die with the respect of all my friends.” 

“Mars” was leaving the podium Iris stopped him and asked “are you asking us to believe that you think your young and naïve or are you asking us to believe that you did nothing wrong?”  “Mars” turn back to the podium and said I’m not asking you to think I young and naïve or that I did nothing wrong what I want you to know is that you have my fate in your hands and that no matter what I believe or don’t believe you hold the key to the answer. “Will I live or will I die.”

“Mars” did leave the podium then and walked outside where it had been raining most of the day while he waiting for six important people or seven people if it turn into a tie breaker his fate.  Few of his friends came out to meet him and tell him that thought the Gods would listen and he did a great job.  It took about forty-five minutes and the council was through and someone came to get “Mars”.  He headed for the podium again he could not tell by looking at the council what his fate was.  The Gods asked him before we tell you what will be your fate we have one question.  “If you were in the same situation would you do the same thing again?  He looked up at the council and looked them each in their faces one at a time and then he replied without any hesitation of any kind “Yes I would.”  The Gods looked at one another and then they all smiled down on “Mars” and said “Mars” you are darn lucky cat because had you said that you would have changed your mind then we would have put you to death but because we feel you did not mean any kind of disrespect or offense then we have decided to let you live.  However there is one condition and that condition must be followed to the letter of the law.  If at any time it is determined you do not follow through then the council will find you in contempt and you will receive a harsh judgment.  You must spent time with both Re and Bastet.  “Mars” said no problem it would be an honor. 

Suddenly a loud noise bangs somewhere off the podium area and every one turns to look and Mars wakes up and realizes that he is in his cat bed in his master’s living room and there are no friends, gods, goddess or is he really in Egypt.  He is in his home where he belongs and he has no powers at all.